Deal With Your Dependency Issues to Make Your Ex Come Back
Easier said than done, some women will probably tell you, whenever you ask them the question, “how can I make my ex come back to me?” Finding ways to bring back a lost love is quite a challenge, especially for women who are filled with frustration, anger and bitterness, and can not get over the separation easily. If you just got out of a relationship that you feel was the right one for you, and still wanting to make your ex come back to you, there are some things that you need to understand before doing anything drastic that may have some bad consequences for you.
First, you need to analyze objectively if the relationship deserves a second, third, or fourth chance. If breaking up and making up have become habits for you and your partner, it could be telling you that you have compatibility issues, and the relationship is not bound to survive. Second, you also have to check if your desire to make your ex come back to you is borne out of love or dependency. Oftentimes, women who just broke up with their boyfriends or who had just separated from their husbands desire to link up again with their partners, because they feel lost, confused, and not sure where to turn to after the separation. This is not the right reason to get back together, and until you resolve your dependency issues, you will continue to have conflicts in the relationship.
One way to win back ex loves is to make your partner realize that you are matured enough to handle the responsibilities that a relationship requires. A mature relationship does not feed on dependency, and, instead, works to make each other realize their full potentials, without impeding each other’s growth. When a person is too dependent on another, a power play may ensue, when the one being dependent is forced to settle for what the other person can give. On the other hand, the one being depended on may choose to stay, out of a perceived responsibility to stay, and not just because of true love. When one gets tired from depending too much, or being depended on too often, conflicts arise and the relationship suffers.
It is better to see each other on equal footing, with one complementing the other. This way, any of the partners can choose to have space when he or she needs it, and then come back to the relationship with renewed love and respect for the other partner.
Love needs to be nurtured on a daily basis. It can not survive if one partner is dependent on another and stifles the other person’s growth. Love has to bring out the best in each of the partners and this is not possible in an environment of dependency.
Wanting to make your ex come back to you? Try checking if you have dependency issues, and work on how you can be a stronger person. Work on your self-esteem, find ways to develop your confidence, learn new things, develop your skills and talents. Once your ex sees that you had developed into your own person, more matured and more capable to handle a relationship, getting back with your ex will come easy and this time, he may finally stay for good.
"Deal With Your Dependency Issues to Make Your Ex Come Back", was submitted 11/20/2011 under category Break Up.
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